Clients and friends often ask me what "diet" I'm on or what I eat to look the way I do. Every time I'm asked about my diet, I find myself stumbling over my words and not being able to really come up with an answer. So how is it that I can be so passionate about good nutrition and health and yet have nothing to say when asked about my OWN diet?Because I don't have an answer. Not an easy one anyway.
We live in a society that is obsessed with weight loss and dieting. Just look at the countless diets and meal plans that are out there, as well as all the Joe Shmoes who just wrote that new book on the food plan that REALLY WORKS! We are also a society that wants everything to be as quick and easy as possible. LOSE 70 POUNDS IN TWO HOURS!! REALLY WORKS!!SHED ALL YOUR BELLY FAT AND CELLULITE AND CURE WRINKLES AND HAIR LOSS AND CROOKED TEETH WITH THIS ONE EASY TRICK!! And we buy it.
All these things can sound so promising and magical, but what they don't tell you is that there is NO REPLACEMENT for good nutrition, effort, and TIME. What they don't tell you is what a tightrope walk dieting and food restriction is, or what can happen if you fall off the wrong side of the tightrope and land in a heap of eating disorders.
I'm not in any way claiming that dieting leads to disordered eating, but I am claiming to know first hand that it is an easy trap to slide into. Too much time of my own life was lost to restricting, starving, bingeing, purging, abusing laxatives, and not to mention a difficult journey to recovery. And the scariest part about it all...I didn't fall into that spiral by "dieting" or trying to lose weight. I wanted to get healthy. I wanted to stop eating Taco Bell for breakfast and clean up my nutrition. Which is why I am so cautious about offering quick advice on nutrition to clients and even friends. Because food and body issues are not just for Victoria's Secret models. They're not JUST FOR WOMEN.
So here is my answer to these questions, and beware, if you are looking for a quick trick, easy solution, or even a cut and dry one, look elsewhere yo.
The way I eat has been years, 5 at least, in the making. It has been a lot of trial and error, and error, and error to figure out what works for me. I'm not even there yet. My "diet" is always evolving as I learn more about food and my own body. I have had to do all kinds of food experiments on myself to find what works for me. I've had to figure out what makes me feel good and energized, not just in my body but in my mind and emotions as well. Hear this: Food doesn't just interact with your body! It interacts with your mind, emotions, lifestyle, and relationships too! That is why I believe that there is no one diet or system that will work with everyone.
Here's where I give you a little tough lovin'. Your body and what you put in it are IMPORTANT. Stop looking for easy answers. GET EDUCATED and take the time to create your own system of nutrition that works for you. Find legit sources to learn about carbs, fat, protein and how they function in your body. Learn about micro-nutrients, chemicals, preservatives, and the processes your food goes through to get to your plate. I know there's a lot of info out there, and it can be overwhelming, but START SOMEWHERE. And ladies...SHAPE and Cosmo magazine, even Women's Health, are NOT good sources. In fact, that shit's garbage. If you got em', toss em'. Find a mentor who lives a balanced and healthy lifestyle. Ask a professional, but make sure the emphasis is on the whole person and not just the physical body, calorie count, or a number on the scale.
Accept that this will take some time and effort. You didn't develop your unhealthy habits overnight, so don't expect to unwind them quickly. YOU HAVE ONE BODY and one life, and IT MATTERS! If you don't have your health, the rest of your life will suffer. Promise. Everyone makes room for what matters to them. Spend less time on Facebook. Cut your TV time. Take that $5 that you spend on your frappamochalatte whatever and buy some fresh produce. You CAN make it work, it's just a matter of how. Make small, doable changes. Pick one food to cut out for a couple weeks and see how your body reacts. Make your body your own science experiment. Learn to listen to and TRUST your body rather than accepting everything you hear and read. Even the best information might not be what's right for you. What feels good in my system might tear yours apart. Get educated, then embark on the beautiful and scary journey of going inside and asking YOURSELF what you need and don't need. Enjoy the adventure. It's worth it.
One final note: If you do suffer from any kind of disordered eating, reach out! It's not easy, I know. Seek professional help, no matter the cost. You are valuable, and deserve to live a vibrant and healthy life.
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